I’m seriously ticked off.
I had a conversation yesterday with a fellow named Anthony. He explained to me how up until very recently, he really wanted to get into the Real Estate business and take advantage of the unique opportunity we have. In particular he wanted to get into foreclosures. Who could blame him for being excited?
He went on to tell me about a conversation he just recently had with an agent who, in a very short period of time, utterly convinced him that there was NO WAY he could make money on foreclosures. The Realtor was knowingly or unknowingly stealing Anthony’s dream. The Realtor went on to say, that because she has ‘been in the business for 15 years’ she is an expert and that he would be wise to heed her warning. Sadly, Anthony let her scare him into believing her.
If you think about it, that agent did herself, Anthony, the local community, and the real estate market as a whole, a real disservice because there is a fortune to be made in foreclosures right now, whether she knows it or not. The proof is overwhelming. The good that would have come from his potential success would have had a ripple effect into the community in numerous ways. Sadly, it won’t be happening.
What gets my blood boiling is that agent was flat wrong and yet was able to convince Anthony that there was no opportunity. You can bet that during our conversation I gave it my all to turn him back around and get him back on the track, but it was too late. He was convinced and there was no changing his mind.
Why was the agent so willing to convince Anthony of something so irrefutably wrong? I have a theory that I’ll share in a moment, but I can’t help wonder what the agent’s been doing for the last 15 years if she sees no opportunity to buy right and do deals in THIS market.
Here’s what I’ve noticed over the years. When you and I are in a position where we are looking for guidance or advice, unfortunately we often ask a person who, when given the opportunity, finds some odd pleasure (conscious or subconscious) in imposing their will on us, rather than truly helping us, in a positive way.
Like when someone tells you, “you can’t do that” – even when they’re dead wrong and perhaps worse, have no idea what they’re talking about.
Have you ever noticed that?
What I’ve discovered is sometimes when you ask for guidance or advice from someone who or isn’t sure of what your asking, or simply doesn’t know the answer, they might say “you can’t do that” because it allows them to maintain their position of authority over you and it’s much more comfortable than admitting they don’t know.
Think about it. If this person were to say, “Gee, I’m not sure” or “I don’t know anything about it”, or “I’ve never done it, so I’m not one to offer advice”, or “I tried and it didn’t work for me”, they would give up their position of authority over you. In fact, they’d come down to “your level” and really be more like a peer than the authority they feel like they should be. This is not a comfortable place for this type of person.
So why do they feed you B.S. rather than just be honest and candid? It’s because their ego or self esteem is so fragile that the mere thought of you finding out they don’t know the “answer” and maybe they aren’t as smart or experienced as they’ve presented themselves to be, is overwhelming to them.
Their desire to be seen as the brilliant authority overrides their desire to be honest and humble.
You know what I mean?
I see this as a low brow form of manipulation and trickery. Is it dishonest? I don’t know. I think it comes so naturally for some folks, that it’s hard to call it honest or dishonest. I also believe that for some it is subconscious.
Negativity is all around us in our lives and so there are people ALL AROUND YOU who are like this, to the core, and who will happily ruin your day or worse, steal your dream, if you let them.
They come in all shapes and sizes with all sorts of backgrounds and professions. They’re all around you – all the time. Family, and friends included!
Your ability to succeed in anything, will come from your ability to take episodes like Anthony’s in stride or better, completely tune it out!
How about the media? That’s a perfect example of what I’m talking about, on a LARGE scale.
The media, if you let it, will convince you that the economy is in the toilet and may never recover, and that you and your loved ones are going to die of H1N1 Flu, if it suits their purpose!
I believe that you and I need to quietly question everything we hear and make our own evaluations and judgments based on our own thinking and experiences. We need to be critical, independent thinkers. Always remember that someone else’s opinion of what you can or can’t do with your life, is just that… their opinion, and it should have no bearing on what believe, your goals or your aspirations.
So, anytime you hear the words “you can’t do that”, I strongly suggest you doubt what you’re hearing and insist on drawing your own conclusions. Otherwise, you may be doomed to a life of mediocrity.
As you may know, I’ve been in the business of buying and selling real estate since 1993 and I’ve seen up, down and sideways markets. I’ve bought and sold all kinds of properties. Heck, I have 4 under contract as I write this. I and many of my students have made, and continue to make a killing in Real Estate, in spite of the dream stealers.
You can do the same!
I say there has never been a better time to make a fortune in Real Estate than right now, and YOU deserve to be part of it. It’s time for you to get your share of the “More than 3.4 million homes are expected to be foreclosed on in this year alone.” – CNNMoney.com
You are worthy of good health, wealth and happiness. You’re entitled to have your own definition of success!
Anyone who tells you otherwise simply wants to steal your dream. Don’t let it happen!
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I hope you will learn from Anthony’s situation and never let it happen to you. Don’t let the dream stealers get you!
Your friend and advocate…
PS. Please leave your comments below and tell me what you’re thinking? Have you had an encounter with a dream stealer? Tell me about it!